Sunday, March 30, 2014

Don't You Dare...Stop

As much as I love motivating others, there were days when I struggled to remain encouraged and motivated to go on. Recently, God sent me a life changing word from a COMPLETE stranger..who...(get this) wasn't even talking to me.
I wanted to share these God-sent words of wisdom with those of you who may be experiencing the same thing. Please click on the video below and what ever you do...DON"T YOU DARE.... STOP!!! 

Thursday, March 6, 2014

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Motivating the Motivator

If you are like me, you love what you do. Helping others reach their potential is perhaps one of the best feelings in the world. But lets be honest, it requires a lot of work and can be tiresome at times. Pastors spend countless hours studying the word of God for their congregations; Teachers constantly search for educational and creative ways to captivate the ears of their students; Employers work hard to keep their staff motivated and productive; and Mentors/Life Coaches are forever researching the best options and path plans for their clients. Each one of these professions require the person called to operate in them to give unselfishly and relentlessly.

But who's there to motivate the motivator?

Who's there to encourage you when you are out of ideas or simply tired of thinking? Support can be hard to find when the majority of the people you know depend on you. Most "motivators" feel guilty for getting tired and wanting to "get away from it all".

From one motivator to another, I wanted to tell you; it's okay to feel that way. My husband and I have been blessed with the distinct pleasure of serving under some of the most notable Pastors, we've been taught by the best of Teachers and we've worked for some of the best employers; all of whom poured mounds of love and wisdom into our lives. In our nearly 18 years of marriage, Travis and I have taken those nuggets of wisdom and applied them to our daily principles of living. Today, I wanted to share four of those nuggets with you...

It's okay to say "No".
Once people realize the value of your gifts and talents, requests will come in left and right. Some will try to extort your abilities but for the most part, there will be a genuine need for your help. It's important to remember this "You can't fix everyone's problems." Use wisdom when handling requests and don't over extend yourself. Overloading will only cheapen the quality of your work. I've found it easier to say no by also referring them to another business or agency who might be available to help. Don't let the fear of someone else stealing a member, employee or potential client keep you from partnering with others. No one person can do it alone. Besides what God has for YOU is for YOU, no one can take that away.

It's okay to take a time of rest.
I know this might sound a bit redundant but even God rested on the 7th day when creating the world and we are no stronger than he. The human body needs rest and the mind needs refreshing. This can be hard to do when your mind runs even while you are sleep...or attempting to sleep that is. Setting realistic goals and daily to do lists, will help you rest easier. Remember, you can't save a drowning person if you are too weak to swim. You perform better when you feel better. You've been given vacation time. Use it!

 Just because you are leader doesn't mean you stop learning.
Continue to study your respective crafts. Take a class, register for a conference, find a mentor or hire a life coach. Times and technology are constantly changing, the life span of your career depends heavily on your ability to remain educated on the "here and now". Also, you need an outlet. Find a mentor or life coach who specializes in your profession but has no immediate ties to where you work; this ensures you will receive unbiased advice in times of uncertainty.

And last but certainly not least, when all else fails, remember Galatians 6:9.
And let us not be weary in well doing; for in due season we shall reap if we faint not. God sees you and he knows your heart. Keep making a difference in the lives of others and you will be blessed abundantly.

Stay Motivated Motivators!

Monday, February 24, 2014

Low Grade Black People

That's it! That's it! That's it! I can't take this anymore!

My vision is to motivate and inspire people from all walks of life but as an African American woman I'm frustrated. I'm disappointed in the continuing growth of sitcom and reality shows that illuminate low grade examples of black people.
 I get it.....The primary purpose for television is to entertain..But where do we draw the line people? When do we say "Okay. Enough is enough! I'm not going to make a fool out of myself any longer for a dime and two coins." Real Housewives of Atlanta, Love and Hip Hop, Being Mary Jane, Scandal, The Tankards, Preacher's Daughters, Blood Sweat and Heels....all these shows; while entertaining to most, are epic fails in one important area...POSITIVE INFLUENCE.
None of them feature representations of strong hardworking black families who have morals and a high standard of living. These shows continue to cheapen our worth by portraying cheating, lying, manipulative and seductive characters.

There was a time when black characters where seen to be nothing more dancing fools with painted black faces and wide white lips. Although these characters appeared to be doors of opportunity back then, today they are deemed as offensive.

Society has become oblivious to the opportunistic painted faces now camouflaged behind the red pouty lips, Louis Vuitton heels and Giorgio Armani suits.

Green eyed logic says" It's only TV." However, reality clearly reveals the media's agenda to govern our way of living. Television influences how we dress, what we eat, how we talk, think and act.

And to make matters worst, the same celebrities you see fighting, cursing and throwing shade at each other through blogs and twitter are also the ones who are going into our schools, Boys and Girls clubs and even some churches to speak with our children.

On the other hand, you have to give them credit. After producing shows, music and movies loaded with cheating sex, drugs and lies at least they are committed to educating our children on the importance of remaining safe and responsible by making TV commercials that encourages you to know your status by marketing and selling HIV tests conveniently now available for you to use in the privacy of your own home. YASSS, don't you just love the conflicted messages they are sending??? "Go out and sleep with everyone you know. Just be sure to regularly take your STD test. You never know when your actions will catch up with ya!" (Yes, I'm being sarcastic)

And let us not forget their lukewarm "ligion". After providing us with all of those wonderful examples of adultery, fornication, lies and greed, they are always sure to thank God at the awards show for granting them the favor they needed to promote a sin filled lifestyle that will eventually send us all straight to Hell. #ChileBye!

I am raising my children to be Strong Positive Christian pillars in the community as well as in this world. I'm teaching them to never compromise their integrity or God's word.

Everything that glitters is definitely not gold. Especially if you have to make a fool out of yourself to get it.

No matter what color you are; it's not okay for our sisters to call each other the B word. It's s not okay for our brothers to "bust a sag" and demean women. It's not okay for adults to physically fight over "he said she said". It's wrong. It's classless and it poisons the minds of those who turn to TV for guidance because they don't have proper role models.

 As a child of God, I choose to promote his Kingdom. As a writer, I choose to pen life and as a Life Coach, my brand of choice is the Morally Empowered Lifestyle. I choose to stand out from what the media claims to be the new normal. It's time to Upgrade!

What's your choice?
As always, I'm not judging....I'm Standing!

Monday, December 30, 2013

2014 Proclamation!

After a much needed hiatus, I am back!!! I feel refreshed and ready to start the new year!!! Here is my proclamation, what's yours?

Monday, November 25, 2013

Best Man Holiday: Movie Review

After hearing so many rave reviews from my Facebook friends and family, I was very excited today when the hubby and I finally got the chance to steal away to go see the movie Best Man Holiday. I promise not to include any spoilers. I find myself conflicted while writing this review. The movie’s core message was unexpectedly heartwarming but the actual execution of the entire movie itself has me on edge as a Christian.

While the movie comes complete with adulterated yet comedic drama, I have to give props to the movie’s writer and director Malcolm D. Lee for not going overboard like Tyler Perry did with his melodramatic soap opera movies “Why Did I Get Married” and “Why Did I Get Married Too”.

HOWEVER, I would be remised if I didn’t say how disappointed I am in my fellow “brothers and sisters in Christ” who positively cosigned on this movie (Amos 3:3). Yes, I fought emotion during certain scenes but as a child of God and the wife of a newly ordained Pastor I cannot, in good conscience, recommend this movie for anyone to go and see. My emotions were touched but my spirit was grieved. While the life lesson in the movie is one that will probably make the majority of us all stop, think and reflect, the constant use of God’s name in vain (Exodus 20:7), vulgar profanity (especially the F bombs) (James 3:10) and the sexual references (I John 2:16) (which includes oral and anal sex) are way too explicit for any Christian too ignore. For those of you who watched the original Best Man, you know the character Lance, played by Morris Chestnut, to be the cursing-christian pro athlete who is preparing to marry his love Mia. In the Best Man Holiday, Lance is still the same cursing-christian. As long as we as a body of Christ continues to accept Hollywood’s persona of what true Christian living is all about, these examples will continue to be exhibited in the movies. Unfortunately, we have become desensitized to the enemy’s plot (John 10:10) to contaminate the minds of the people by presenting a false sense of holiness through the movie screen (Matthew 7:15). By saying nothing, we are telling the unbeliever they don’t have to totally surrender their lives to Christ. We are saying “It’s okay to be the Lance Christian”. (Galatians 1:10)

This movie would have been just as enjoyable without the vulgar language and sexual liaisons: the extremely talented cast and heart touching core message alone was enough to make this a FAMILY movie that could have broken records at the box office.

The Best Man Holiday was a pretty good movie but it could have been even better if it was kept clean and family friendly. It would be nice to see standards established in Hollywood and resumed in Christianity. And before you go there, I’m not judging. I’m standing. Matthew 16:18

Monday, November 18, 2013

Make Your Mark

Disclaimer: As I Christian, I have to start off by saying I normally try to avoid using secular artists as examples to this degree in my  blog posts.  I am not a follower of Jennifer Hudson. And while I would prefer she use her gifts and talents for the building of God's Kingdom, Jennifer's extraordinary talents simply cannot be denied... 
Jennifer Hudson was a Season three contestant on American Idol who to everyone's surprise was voted off during the Top 7 show. Jennifer DID NOT WIN American Idol but that did not stop her from making her MARK. Today Jennifer Hudson is known her captivating wind pipes and phenomenal acting skills. She made her film debut in Dreamgirls (2006), which won her an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress, a Golden Globe Award, a BAFTA Award, an NAACP Image Award and a Screen Actors Guild Award. She has overcome tragedy with triumph after the murders of her mother, brother and nephew. She continues to make her MARK in a world that tried to place limitations on what they considered to be a plus sized cruise line entertaining black girl from Chicago. She defied the odds and she didn't do it by an initial win. She did it by making her MARK!

In everything you do, give it your all! If one door closes, be on the look out for that window of opportunity. Continue to work at perfecting your craft and becoming the million dollar market you were destined to be. 
Jesus Time:
Imagine what you can do by adding God to mix. We are all given gifts and talents without repentance. What we choose to with them is up to us. Whether it's pleasing in the eyes of God is up to him. I've learned TEAMWORK MAKES THE DREAMWORK! Either way, I choose to make my MARK with God by my side. Mark 8:36 says For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?Do not become distracted at what's to the left or the right of you. God has your back and sides as well. A true runner stays focused on what's ahead and that's making his/her MARK!
Inspirational Quote:
Their No is God's Not Yet!

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